Using your strengths to overcome pain is a fundamental principle of the Pain Coach Programme.
Everyone has strengths such as focus, creativity, self-confidence, compassion and empathy. We have used these strengths during our lives to achieve success, at work for example. What I find however, is that people are not using their strengths to overcome their pain, and instead fall into a passive role and hope that something or someone will help — medication is a common one of these! ‘That will solve my problem’, but of course pills do not teach you how to return to a meaningful life, that only comes from the lived experience.
In the first meeting we discuss your pain, problems, story and life so that we can identify where we must begin and the strengths that you have that will enable the necessary actions. You will be using strengths in certain arenas, but probably not in that of your health and pain. The focus is absolutely on your ‘cans’ and not your ‘can’ts’, developing these with strategies and progressions so that the former facilitate the latter with time, practice and perseverance.
One very common example of practicing a strength on a day to day basis but not for oneself is compassion. This means that the person is kind, caring and giving, but not towards themselves. To give is rewarding and health giving, but you must be kind to yourself to do this with most effect. In fact, it is distinctly unhealthy to be repeatedly hard on yourself as it creates much angst, worry and anger that creates chronic stress that in turn creates a chronically inflamed state. Developing kindness and compassion towards oneself then is part of developing your strengths to overcome pain.
The Pain Coach Programme is all about developing your strengths and using them to effectively face the moment to moment aspects of pain as well as an overall approach to desensitising and relieving pain. To follow the programme of exercises and techniques, you need motivation, resilience, focus, energy and an ability to deal with distractions from your end goal. Pain Coach prepares you and guides you so that you become your own coach and move forward to a meaningful life once again. There is only one person who changes and transforms pain and suffering, and that is the person who is currently suffering. They just need to know how to do it!
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