Change is happening all the time. Every moment is new and unique as we pass along our own timeline, being moulded by each new experience. Where we are right now has been determined by every thought, action and exposure to date. It has taken me 41 years to write this blog!
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Change is something that we are expert at, and it is something that we cannot prevent. Apart from death, change is the only certainty in life. So if we are always changing, why does pain persist and seem to be the same for the many people suffering chronic symptoms? The answer to this question is that the symptoms are not the same, but we just don’t realise.
Our memories are notoriously unreliable, yet we think that they give us an accurate recall of events. What did you have for lunch three weeks ago last Tuesday? If it was a particularly important lunch date, you may remember. Otherwise, it is a guess or there is no memory at all. And why should you remember anyway? How useful would it be to remember it unless food was hard to come by, in which case you may recall the location so that you can go back there to search again (evolutionary biology at play).
We do not remember events as well as we think we do. The same is for pain. Pain is experiential. We experience pain now. Not in the past or the future because the past and future only exist in our heads whereas pain exists in our body (space) in the now. In fact, this is the same for any experience. It can only really happen now, otherwise it is being created by our mind. This is the case even if we think about something unpleasant or dangerous that triggers a pain response; that pain response is now (some readers will be aware that imaging movement or watching someone else move can evoke pain in someone who is sensitive to that particular movement).
So, although we can recall that last Wednesday we had pain, we cannot recall the pain itself with any accuracy, but we can remember that it was a difficult day. Thinking about the day and things that we did may evoke a pain response, but you are feeling that now, and not then. What you feel now cannot be said to be the same as what you felt then. We also have further history to add to our timeline between the time we are trying to recall and the time that we are doing the recalling. We are thereby not accounting for the changes that have occurred between times.
We are masters of change. How do you want to be? Who do you want to be? What is your vision for you next week, next month, next year? To create that person, you need to take action now. Because now is the only real moment. Sculpting who you will be has to start in the present moment. In terms of overcoming pain, you work at a realistic vision of who you want to be and what you want to be doing, and the begin training and rehabilitation. This always begins with a thought based upon a belief, which drives big action. All of our thinking emerges from our belief system that has been grooved by all our experiences to date. This is why understanding pain is so important for overcoming the problems.
We create many habits around persisting pain, many of which are protective in nature in both thought and action, and are not actually taking us in the direction of changing pain for the better. Rather they are taking us down a path of change towards further protection. This gets us into trouble because it can look like there is no way out. Often this line of thought has been influenced by what you have been told and now believe. In essence though, consider all the change that has brought you to where you are now, and that is you have changed to get there, you can create conditions for change to go in another direction. Pain has come (a change in state), so why can pain not go (a change in state)?
Change in the direction that you want takes time. Change in the direction that you want takes hard work and dedication. But there’s nothing wrong with hard work and dedication to a better life full of meaning and a sense of well-being.